One of my readers recently asked me a question regarding INFJ male compatibility, which turned into a neat conversation that I will reproduce below
Stellar Maze reader: What does a woman need to be like in order to attract and keep an INFJ guy? What personality type and what should she do in order to make it work? You mentioned here that those guys get bored and tend to ignore their partners in the long run. So, how to prevent that and what do?
Blake: I’m of the mind that INFJ men do best with other NF types for long-term relationships. I think many INFJ men are attracted by Se type women. Also, Ne.
In essence, I think INFJ men are most attracted to ESFP and ENFP women: Extraverted Perceiving dominant types with feeling function. This falls in line with the traditional MBTI wisdom on intertype compatibility, but also combined with Socionics intertype compatibility.
However, while an INFJ man may be attracted to an ESFP woman, it’s a poor bet for a long-term relationship. An INFJ will get bored intellectually with this type of woman, which brings me to how to KEEP an INFJ guy: good conversation.
I would say the most ideal mate for an INFJ, and the most typical from my experience, is the ENFJ woman. For marriage, I would say this is ideal.
For the deepest soul resonance (soul mates), I would say INFP female is best long-term fit in this regard.
ENFP female is sort of in the middle between these extremes. There is good initial attraction, good longevity, good marriage potential, good soul resonance.
ENFJ female is more on the marriage compatibility side and not so much soul resonance, kinda like really good buddies with good sexual attraction that tends to last.
INFP female is more on the soulmate compatibility spectrum, which means they might not get along in the day-to-day life and be a good team in the way that ENFJ female is, but on the other hand, the roots run deep here, and the INFP female can touch the INFJ male in a way that no other type can.
Stellar Maze reader responds:
Very unexpected that you would mention INFP here, wouldn’t INFP woman be a victim of the INFJ male in a relationship?
Seems like exactly the type of woman he would take for granted and start to ignore. Lack of Se attraction and then love for Si, plus I never thought INFJ males would respect a timid and meek woman? Also, can they even have meaningful conversations when INFP is horrified by any darkness and just hopes the guy is a prince Charming deep down which he isn’t?
I feel like INFJ males love a mommy type that has her shit together or a dominatrix, so ENFJ sounds right
I don’t know how someone can be a “soulmate” long term, is that like a delusion, a limerence?
Blake responds
“Seems like exactly the type of woman he would take for granted and start to ignore. Lack of Se attraction and then love for Si”
Yeah, you’re right, INFJ and INFP can be a complete disaster where the INFJ male loses interest and takes her for granted, but I must mention that they have the most important intertype dimension of compatibility, which is DOMINANT to ID function exchange: The INFJ Ni dominant interacts with her Ni id, and her Fi dominant interacts with his Fi id. This is probably the deepest connection possible between types. However, it is subject to many caveats, the primary one being that they have COMPATIBILITY, which would have to be assessed outside of this system.
But as you were saying there are significant problems between these two types, particularly in regards to them functioning as a TEAM, which is basically what MARRIAGE or LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP requires.
“I never thought INFJ males would respect a timid and meek woman?”
Yes, but they do deep down have a respect for a woman that is truly kind, and I think in the final analysis, an INFJ male really doesn’t want a bossy dominatrix. Short-term attraction-wise they do, but when they get over this fixation, INFJ men like and need kindness. It’s just if they are mortally wounded in this regard, they can take it out on an INFP woman.
There’s also the Se problem of INFP that will drive INFJ crazy. That may be the biggest hurdle for them to overcome. Because INFJ NEEDS Se from a partner and INFP can’t offer that. But let’s say she could. Let’s say she has Se credibility. IOW, there is viable Se attraction to the INFP female. And she has good Te (has her shit together). The attraction for the INFJ male can be very deep because it’s coming from the deepest emotional levels in him (Fi id).
But I’m not going to whitewash the significant hurdles that will be there in terms of the Se and Te thing. Also, id activation, while deep, can be draining and exhausting. These would be partners that shouldn’t spend too much time together. It’s almost as if they can’t combine their lives together.
But on the other hand, the INFJ male likes to spend a lot of time alone anyway after their quick relationship metabolism wears off. In this regard, the INFP female should be tolerant of this because she is after all an introverted intuitive type herself.
The gist of this relationship is it’s the opposite of a marriage relationship. A marriage is a publicly recognized relationship, which exists in the light of day. The partners are acknowledged in the objective sphere. An INFJ INFP relationship is a hidden relationship, which is what a soulmate relationship is by nature. It may not exist to anyone but the lovers themselves. But it’s like it offers a respite from the normal daily operations of both respective parties.
“I don’t know how someone can be a “soulmate” long term, is that like a delusion, a limerence?”
The soul is a fiction in a way. Subjectivity. However, so are dreams and imagination. But that doesn’t make them any less necessary to the INFJ male, and NF types in general, who are defined on these terms.
The INFJ male is an INFP inside, in their childhood, in their soul, the dreamer. The INFP female is this objectively, in the world. What I’m saying is that an INFP female potentially offers the deepest form of relationship to the INFJ male that is in touch with their child dreamer self, their presexual self: that of going back to childhood. I suppose it is regressive, but it can also be healing. It depends on how it is handled.
It puts the INFJ in their emotions, which is a double-edge sword. Because if they are the vengeful INFJ, they can make the INFP pay for bringing out all those tender beautiful feelings in them.
Or it can just plain be a mismatch at the compatibility level, which means they can turn into a false soulmate, which means that because they have such deep instincts with each other this way, they can let each other in completely, that if they are a mismatch (which is highly likely), they can be in a soulmate prison with each other, and neither of them will leave the other. This is a very painful condition.
But if they are compatible with the INFP by some stroke of luck, this could be the best, deepest, and most fulfilling relationship that the INFJ male could experience. They will deal with their Fi, which ultimately is the road to deepest happiness for them because the average INFJ male is cut off from the world because of Fi. They are very vulnerable and helpless here, and their pride prevents them from admitting weakness here, but it is this very weakness that is the path to getting back home. Like a Scorpio, they tend to prey upon people out of this weakness, when it is really themselves they injure most. If they can find the right one, let the right one in, then it offers the chance of healing their greatest wound, and by extension, their capacity for aliveness.
The INFP female is dangerous in this regard because most women wouldn’t put up with INFJ Fi id theatrics. They will leave.
This is a mature relationship. I don’t see it working when INFJ male is younger because he will tend to go for Se and Ne fun and playfulness. And those are good and necessary for his serious soul, but they are like distractions at the level of attraction and can easily fizzle out and lose their charm, which is also where the INFJ can become disinterested. It’s like shiny mirages that ultimately never offer anything beyond superficial entertainment and stimulation.
This won’t necessarily be an EASY relationship, but soulmate relationships are often described this way. They are hard to wrap your head around. I would suggest the highest compatibility partner to make it as easy as possible.
The reward is feeling at home with someone. I would say it’s a HOME type relationship. It’s behind closed doors. It’s a refuge, a sanctuary, and if it goes wrong, a prison that will be hard to escape from.
And when things go wrong at the soul level, it can be hard for anyone to know how to help you, because in a sense it is fictional, and the world of objectivity can’t see it, like being “devoured by some minotaur of conscience”, like a labyrinth where its hard to see where you took a wrong turn.
How would you see things going with the ISFP? (asking for a friend lol)
Based on what you’ve said about INFPs being good b/c their dom Fi can pair with INFJ’s Fi id, ISFP should be the only other type capable of providing this? Although I suppose it’s not equal/mutual in that the INFJ won’t be giving the ISFP dom Si to satisfy her Si id in return? ISFP with aux Se you’d expect could also provide INFJ with Se like ESFP. Would the issue ultimately be that like with ESFP, ISFP is sensor rather than intuitive, and thus a lack of intellectual/etc. stimulation/connection?
You’re 100% right about extraverted perceiving being initially/instinctively most attractive to INFJ (men?), I certainly find myself drawn to ESFPs and ENFPs, but tbf these are typically popular types already. And ya as an INFJ, Fi just seems so badass.
Based on what you’ve said about INFPs being good b/c their dom Fi can pair with INFJ’s Fi id, ISFP should be the only other type capable of providing this?
Yes, it would seem that way, but…
Would the issue ultimately be that like with ESFP, ISFP is sensor rather than intuitive?
And you answered your own question 😉
Does the same apply to INFJ woman? Would the fact that she’s a woman change things soulmate and marriage/team-wise? Is NF partner still best for INFJ woman or more TJ type to give them the security+stability they need as a woman even if she’s a bit naughty/mischievous herself. Having some difficulty picturing INFJ women satisfied with INFP man, especially a spineless INFP man, INFP being the most feminine type, but I could be wrong.
Does the same apply to INFJ woman?
Yes, an INFJ woman will do best with a male of the NF type.
Would the fact that she’s a woman change things soulmate and marriage/team-wise?
No.
Is NF partner still best for INFJ woman or more TJ type to give them the security+stability they need as a woman even if she’s a bit naughty/mischievous herself.
ISTJ and ESTJ. Yeah that’ll be fun.
Having some difficulty picturing INFJ women satisfied with INFP man, especially a spineless INFP man
She won’t be happy with a spineless INFP man, but she’ll be happy with a non-spineless one. They exist, and that’ll be a sight mightier than your happiness quotient with an ISTJ. Does that even exist?
Hi Blake! i’m really honored I got an article as a result of my question! Thank you for the long and thorough answer.
So, perhaps if the INFP woman is Saturnian/ has lots of Capricorn in her chart, that can boost her Se?
I also feel like the INFJ male needs to love himself and be in touch with his id, not to run away from it. Unfortunately I’ve met plenty of INFJ men who seem to be mortally wounded, they are attracted to kindness but prey upon it and they have a philosophy that kindness needs to be eradicted or something. Big fans of Nietzsche and such.
Regarding another thing you wrote, do you really think the INFP woman would accept this arrangement, I mean, being hidden and not acknowledged publicly? Wouldn’t she want to marry the INFJ guy, woudn’t she suffer when he leaves her in order to recharge? I assume the INFJ guy could even speak to other women while he is away, would the INFP woman get jealous? Or if she starts speaking to other guys, will the INFJ male get jealous? Or maybe this relationship isn’t based on “ownership”, maybe it is free game, like a true hippie utopia?
I really wonder does the INFJ man need to leave, or would separate rooms be something? A specially designed man cave? What to do when he leaves to get him back, are we supposed to call or just wait around? I’m worried because this guy I want is INFJ AND has almost all his planets including moon in Scorpio.
Sorry for my long posts
So, perhaps if the INFP woman is Saturnian/ has lots of Capricorn in her chart, that can boost her Se?
Yes, exactly, but I would say it’s more Te that it boosts, however an INFP with a strong Saturn goes a long way to correcting her innate jellyfishness.
Regarding another thing you wrote, do you really think the INFP woman would accept this arrangement, I mean, being hidden and not acknowledged publicly?
No, I don’t think she would, unless she wasn’t in love with the INFJ, and was just viewing it as a sexual fun relationship type of thing. INFPs are fully capable of doing that. But if they are in love with INFJ, no, quite the opposite, and not at all.
I assume the INFJ guy could even speak to other women while he is away, would the INFP woman get jealous?
If she was in love with the INFJ she would be very jealous, if she wasn’t, she would compartmentalize it and not think about it. INFPs have compartmentalization abilities. Depends what compartment the INFJ relationship is in.
Or if she starts speaking to other guys, will the INFJ male get jealous?
Yes.
Or maybe this relationship isn’t based on “ownership”, maybe it is free game, like a true hippie utopia?
INFPs are more hippies with the whole free love thing. INFJs are more not. Actually, okay, here’s what it is. INFPs are more free love unless they are in love with you. Then you are theirs. INFJ men are more like this AFTER the INFP is in love with them. Then they are more prone to get bored and wanna do free love. But you won’t be able to do this with an INFP that is in love with you. Because INFP woman love absolutely once they are in love. INFP woman love is the closest you are going to get to unconditional love in this world.
Wouldn’t she want to marry the INFJ guy, woudn’t she suffer when he leaves her in order to recharge?
If she’s in non-hippie non-free love mode, which tbh, INFPs aren’t really well-suited to that mode really, except for brief periods in her unrealistic imagination. She does want to marry and settle down with Mr. Right. But as I said, the INFP INFJ relationship is not really bringing out that side of her, but more the soulmate side, the hidden side, and as such it might not click in her compartmentalized head that INFJ man is the stuff marriages and stable relationships are made of, and for good reason, because her intuition does not err here: he isn’t.
However, if they were to be married, or in a live-in domestic situation resembling marriage, the INFP will be fine with the INFJ leaving to recharge as long as that is not interfering with practical and domestic duties to an untoward extent. Which means, overall she is pretty tolerant of the INFJ male need to leave and go off into his own world in his head. She doesn’t need to be involved in any of that, and she doesn’t really care. INFP love is rather abstract and threaded throughout existence of the pair such that it creates this network of goodwill and fine intention.
UNLESS the INFJ male that is hers strays into forays with other women. That will shift her out of that forbearant and highly tolerant mode into another compartment. And once there, it’s heartbreak for her. There is NO GREY AREA for her if the INFJ male is her one and only true love. Which is how she loves once she is in love. It’s very black or white in both regards. In-love behavior vs. not-in-love behavior.
I really wonder does the INFJ man need to leave, or would separate rooms be something?
He better leave the planet, which he will anyway, in his mind, in his imagination. O yes, he should have a separate room from INFP woman because here’s another thing: INFP can be alone with you in the same space, but INFJ cannot. An INFJ male will need his own space that is not shared hippie space.
A specially designed man cave?
Yes! Will you build it?
What to do when he leaves to get him back, are we supposed to call or just wait around?
I would suggest not being needy in the first place and having your own life. That’s the best way to get an INFJ male back. Just ignore them. Then the cat comes back in. Assuming the cat is compatible with you and likes/loves you in the first place.
INFJ males want what they can’t have. So play the dance of intimacy game with them by withdrawing into your own life and projects and then when he comes around, you can tell him how much you are into things that are not him.
This advice is true with anyone in general. Neediness is the biggest turnoff to men and women. From an attraction POV.
I’m worried because this guy I want is INFJ AND has almost all his planets including moon in Scorpio.
So, probably a Plutonian type INFJ, which is the type of INFJ that I was talking about mostly in my INFJ Stellar Maze posts of early years, and so, they need intensity and drama and depth and a woman that is Plutonian herself.
Sorry for my long posts
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Gosh this article hit home! Cannot emphasis enough dealing with the Fi id theatrics and staying understanding the core pain for an INFJ as an INFP.
INFJ need kindness at the core and I do believe they are internally INFP but are extremely extremely attuned to disrespect and what others may come to understand or forgive they hold in their hearts and vengeance proceeds.
Do you think it would be similar for INFJ females, having a soulmate connection with INFP men and marriage compatibility with ENFJs?
Wow, when I saw the title I did not imagine an endorsement of ENFJ-F and INFJ-M. As you have written elsewhere, this pair often does have extremely intense chemistry, but there is something “fast” and perpetually dissatisfied about ENFJs that, while elusive and sexy as hell, seems likely to preclude long-term satisfaction for a male INFJ. Like at some point, does a male INFJ really want a woman who is that restless and prone to wander when she gets bored? Seems awfully stressful. This applies especially to the darker examples of the type, who you have referred to as the Type 8 ENFJs. I’d say those types are downright dangerous for an INFJ man; classic forbidden fruit. Powerfully attractive, but her dominant Fe can wreak manipulative havoc with his Fi id. Not to mention, some experience of this type suggests they can be quite difficult when challenged or displeased— as they are likely to be by any man, ultimately. And that can happen anywhere on a spectrum from gossip and indiscretion to ruthless divorce tactics to completely psychopathic behavior (e.g., promiscuous cheating, false accusations of assault). Yikes. So yes, amazing chemistry, but I don’t know that I’d recommend this pairing to a friend. Perhaps in a specific couple with very healthy people,
It could be great. And of course the dynamics could be different with a male ENFJ and a male INFJ; dominance tends to rest somewhat easier on male shoulders. But this seems more like a fantasy pairing than a practical one to me.
I should add, male-male ENFJ/INFJ *friendships* are definitely among the best that exist. I have observed a number of these over the years and they are free of the power dynamics and temptations that often characterize romantic entanglements, leaving the parties free to support each other fully. The ENFJ gets a steady, rational ear and a rare opportunity to indulge Ni fully, while the INFJ gets support and encouragement to use his Fe and also the pleasure of basking in the ENFJ’s reflected glamour. These two can really bring out the unexpected in each other and their friendship will be *noticed*.
Interesting that you did not address at all the INFJ-INFJ pair, which has always seemed to me to promise much of the chemistry but less instability than INFJ-ENFJ. I have not seen much discussion of this match on Stellarmaze, perhaps it took place on the late forum. Conventional wisdom says that same-type relationships are challenging because there is a less readily available source of growth opportunities. Personally this has never bothered me. When there’s no one to lean on for social engagement, housework or whatever, one has no choice but to develop oneself. And that’s the best outcome of all, certainly for a male INFJ.
Much of what I previously said regarding ENFJ, type 3 or type 8, is mixed with ESFP and ISFP. So, what you are saying regarding the “intense chemistry” between INFJ and ENFJ is actually the intense ATTRACTION that I mentioned INFJ having with the ESFP type. When you pull apart ESFP from ENFJ you will find that ENFJ is actually a much more reasonable long-term proposition for INFJ, with a good mix of attraction/chemistry and COMPATIBILITY.
Powerfully attractive, but her dominant Fe can wreak manipulative havoc with his Fi id. Not to mention, some experience of this type suggests they can be quite difficult when challenged or displeased— as they are likely to be by any man, ultimately. And that can happen anywhere on a spectrum from gossip and indiscretion to ruthless divorce tactics to completely psychopathic behavior (e.g., promiscuous cheating, false accusations of assault).
That’s more a description of the ESFP female going ballistic when she doesn’t get whatever she wants, not ENFJ female. I know I said this was exemplary of ENFJ female behavior in previous ENFJ articles, but I have since realized that the histrionic and borderline behavior is ESFP. ENFJ female by comparison is much more insightful and measured in her behavior.
When you mention “gossip, indiscretion, ruthless divorce tactics, manipulation, and completely psychopathic behavior” that’s ESFP female. They are insane when they go ballistic. Those are the ones that I recommend INFJ’s not getting into a marriage with like Kurt Cobain famously did. Wanna see all the shit you just mentioned, just watch Courtney Love in an interview. Insane, borderline trainwreck, and just plain shitty human being.
For a more classical age of Hollywood example, check out Richard Burton’s stormy marriage to Elizabeth Taylor.
An INFJ-ENFJ relationship is far removed from this picture you are painting, which I of course helped to paint due to blending ESFP with ENFJ in the ENFJ articles I wrote in the days of yore.
What if an INFP woman (Plutonian) would like to experience her love reciprocated — “INFP woman love absolutely once they are in love. INFP woman love is the closest you are going to get to unconditional love in this world” — is it even possible and would a compatible INFJ male be her best bet?
Look at Winona Ryder (Plutonian INFP) and Johnny Depp (Neptunian INFJ): https://youtu.be/aAPlyZYD6NQ?si=9RG4sHSGQLVa6ruQ
Look at when Dracula (Plutonian INFJ Gary Oldman) first meets Mina (Plutonian INFP Winona Ryder): https://youtu.be/WXpFpeXld5E?si=1cimbuyVhFxO4CGj
Is it possible? I’d say it is and the best chance of reciprocation is with a compatible INFJ. Good that you brought up the word “compatible” because sharing the same planetary subtype/dominant planet is one of the primary determiners of compatibility. If the female INFP is a Plutonian INFP, then her best bet would be with a Plutonian INFJ man.
After all, Dracula said to Mina “I have crossed oceans of time to find you”. Sounds pretty reciprocal.
@Blake
So, when he gets his unconditional love he wants so much, it is THEN he decides to be all free love? Why are INFJ men like this? This is self-sabotage?
I will be reading your old articles, I have never seen anyone on the internet describe INFJ males so exactly. I can recognize my guy in your descriptions.
I think this guy wants to change my identity to fit into his world, he seems to want to own me. I do not trust him at all ,the more I see of him but he is extremely magnetic and attractive.
We work together and I didn’t think much of him at first and then when I was nice to him he just came to me, like he went out of his shell and transformed.
I rejected him subtly but not openly and then I was surprised by what he did. He was outwardly the same but he stopped interacting with me as much… then started interacting more and more with other people at work. Now everyone is under his spell, they are all impressed by him.
He is a good worker but he is great with people so the older women at work are coming to me and telling me what a great guy he is. One of them started even announcing when he is coming and going. Even the guys that like me at work are telling me what a great guy he is. People around us are acting like we are a power couple or something, we have a public. It is like he is pulling strings, like Dracula.
I fell for him then. But we have conflicting backgrounds and ideologies/ lifestyles. This is why I’m both excited but also worried about what is coming. Feels like he has captured me or something, and now he wants us to get married.
I know he is into shady business.
Yeah, he’ll get his mancave. I will not be stepping inside, but hope he’ll let me come in with drinks while I’m dressed like his fave video game character.
I hope he will let me have my soul
@ Blake
Thanks for your reply. Good examples.
I hadn’t seen the Dracula film (might have a crush on Gary Oldman now). I went into it expecting their love to be portrayed in that stereotypical Plutonian/vampiric fashion: passionate, obsessive, all-consuming — needing to devour your lover and take them as part of yourself as you combust into eternal flames kinda thing. I was pleasantly surprised that it was not that. At least not ALL that. I was happy to see these Plutonian people were allowed to be more.
I’ve always wondered if Plutonians HAVE to be obsessive in love — or can they be soft and gentle and love generously, giving space and allowance? I think Dracula would have respectfully (though with a broken heart) allowed Mina to reject him and stay with her husband, if that’s what she truly wanted. That seems more representative of true/unconditional love to me. Maybe that capability comes with maturity and the will not to self-destruct, but rather allow yourself to die and then expand beyond. Maybe then we’re capable.
There’s a part of me that recoiled when you said an INFJ Plutonian male would be the best bet. Contrary to all the rarity statistics, both my parents are INFJs. I know plenty of INFJs although I’ve never been in a romantic relationship one. My mom is your typical Plutonian INFJ Sorceress/Queen of Darkness/Master Manipulator. Uses her powers for evil rather than good and such. So while many admire the magical powers of the INFJ, I hold a grudge. And I covet. I think, uggh, what I could do with those powers (while you’re over there wasting them on self-aggrandizement). I can see how they’d be intoxicating though. So unfortunately I have a bit of a bias against INFJs based on past experience.
Buuut on the other hand… it would be nice to be known. And INFJs just know things, and people. I mean, imagine if an INFJ were to use theirs powers not to manipulate for their own benefit, but to love better, well, that could be nice…
What are your thoughts about seperating psychic vs monetary income for INFJs? Psychic income means doing stuff that gives you satisfaction and good feelings but doesn’t bring in $$$, ie volunteering. Monetary income is self explanatory, it may not necessarily give any psychic income, ie having a soul sucking job at an investment bank where you get paid $$$ but you don’t love it. Should INFJs generally keep them seperate? How should INFJs approach the challenge of combining the two if they want it? (Like you know the whole thing about how sometimes turning passion into your work/living can make it no longer fun.)
Also actually typing the last sentence gave me an idea: Being an INFJ I am naturally lazy. I can be phenomenally disciplined and make myself do stuff… but I dun wanna do it. Anyway, I had this idea that maybe being INFJs, we place too much emphasis on all those grand big weighty emotions and stuff like ‘passion”, “purpose”, “meaning”, “the grand vision” etc. Maybe a more enduring motivation for us is just plain ole fun? Stuff that doesn’t take itself so seriously? Like for an example, say for an INFJ aspiring writer, all the big deep novels like Kite Runner or what have you are filled with so much pathos. Or even big grand personal ambition projects like writing the next Harry Potter. How about just writing crappy Warhammer or Star Wars fanfics for example? That kind of “silly fun”.
Anyway, I had this idea that maybe being INFJs, we place too much emphasis on all those grand big weighty emotions and stuff like ‘passion”, “purpose”, “meaning”, “the grand vision” etc. Maybe a more enduring motivation for us is just plain ole fun?
Yessssssssssssssssssssssss!!! That’s the best idea I’ve heard an INFJ have in a long while. FUN.
What are your thoughts about seperating psychic vs monetary income for INFJs?
Don’t do your dream. That’s what I think. Or if you do, then do it piecemeal. Just write what you like. Short bursts rather than long protractions of the soul. And get paid as much as you can.
Feel like INFPs might have similar conundrum as above. Same solution for them – fun?
Unrelated question – you mentioned all INFPs are enneagram 9. Is it possible a Plutonian INPF would type 5w4 consistently. Think it’s a mistype?
Feel like INFPs might have similar conundrum as above. Same solution for them – fun?
I think even more so for them since they have Ne auxiliary function. That’s pretty much all about having FUN. Mm.
Unrelated question – you mentioned all INFPs are enneagram 9. Is it possible a Plutonian INPF would type 5w4 consistently. Think it’s a mistype?
I think it’s a mistype. One of those things doesn’t belong.
Can you explain “INFJ Fi id theatrics” a bit more? And would an ENTP woman be able to put up with that since she would be immune to it (Fi blindspot)?
Watch Marlon Brando in Last Tango in Paris. That EXACTLY shows what “INFJ Fi id theatrics” look like.
And would an ENTP woman be able to put up with that since she would be immune to it (Fi blindspot)?
I don’t think an ENTP woman gonna be putting up with any of that shit, so that info is deprecated from here on out.
An INFP woman is actually most likely to put up with it.
INFP: Most Likely to put up with INFJ Fi id theatrics.
ENTP ain’t gonna put up with that shit. I don’t know what I was thinking when I wrote that. But you have to take into account it was written many years ago when I was still a virgin walking in a world of wolves.
Oof. Fi id theatrics indeed. I appreciate your ability and humility in revisiting/rewriting previous beliefs.
How would an ENFP woman handle those theatrics differently from an ENTP woman? And ENFP vs. ENFJ?
Wanted to validate something. The inferior Se of the INFJ, do you think the INFJ (male esp) can easily be a giant sex toy for the INFP for them to have their way with the INFJ. Sorry to put it so plainly
What are you really asking? I can probaly give you an answer if you get more specific. As of now, I have no way of answering this.