The zodiac sign of Cancer is extremely romantic in the true sense of that word. No-holds barred romanticism. The kind of romanticism that makes an exemplar of the scientific temperament such as Albert Einstein say, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Cancers are extremely sensitive to everything. Everything affects them acutely in the moment. Pisces, the second contender for most sensitive sign in the zodiac, at least has some remove and delay from the immediate sting of circumstances due to its mutability. Cancer has no filter. Like the mercury in a thermometer, they simply register in the inner emotional world what was said or done in the outside world. Cancer is like a feeling scale similar to how the sign of Libra is a thinking scale.
If someone says something to a Cancer like, “Why are you so fat?” they take it at face value and react completely emotionally. They don’t think about the motives for why the person might have said that or that it might have been something that really had nothing to do with them because that person may have been having a bad day. Maybe that person is wounded and is simply trying to wound others. No, none of that registers with Cancer. The only thing that registers is how much what they said hurt them, the effect it had on Cancer. Understanding other’s motives for doing things is not their forte. That capability would fall under the sign of Scorpio, the second water sign in the zodiac.
So, what’s the deal with water? Water represents feelings. Feelings are by their nature difficult to talk about in any objective way. Feelings are irrational. They just are.
And that is how it is to Cancer. Feelings are neither right nor wrong. Feelings feel either good or bad. They set up negative or positive connotations in the experiencer of them that prejudice them towards further experiences of that stimulus or future avoidance of that stimulus. Cancer likes to feel good as a general rule.
But, due to Cancer having no intermediation between itself and the outside, such as the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, they are the most liable to acute suffering of all the twelve signs. This leads them to either build a wall between themselves and the outside world or into the second most prominent trait of Cancer and their primary gift, self-expression.
Cancers more than any other sign need to talk about their problems and they always have lots of them because there is no end to the mortal miseries one may experience on this blue-green marble of ours. One can picture the natives of Cancer as the eternal psychological patients lying on the couch of the psychologist, going on about all the little things that have affected them since the last time they were there. The way their wife looked at them at dinner last Tuesday, the little thing that their mother said to them on the phone last chat, the way their boss made them feel unappreciated when they were trying to do their best to meet the company deadlines.
Cancers need to feel puffed up and enthused. That is the only way to motivate them. They of all signs respond least positively to negative motivation. Tough love? Don’t do it with Cancers. They won’t understand it. They basically require a neverending diet of esteem and applause. “You’re doing such a good job.” “You’re making a difference.” “You’re alright, you know that.” The reason they need to be told they’re alright is because they are always in danger of not being alright. More than any other sign they are moody as the Dickens. One simple off remark could send them plummeting down into the toilets of self-despair and self-pity and self-anything, as long as it has something to do with the self.
Yes, Cancers are very self-motivated. They are self, self, self. If something doesn’t touch the self of Cancer then it might as well not exist. It has no reality. Unlike the sign of Gemini that can work on anything as long as it gives them a puzzle to solve, it is not so with Cancer. Cancer needs to be personally moved by something in some way for them to pay any attention to it at all. And they tend to work on things in an all-or-nothing fashion. If they see a person, job, or situation as significant they will put all of themselves into it. They will be on fire, they will be manic, and nothing else will exist to them. This is the quality that makes them such quintessential lovers and romantics, especially in a romantic temperament.
You need to build Cancers up, blow them up into big fat puffy balloons. Then they can conquer the world. Many Cancers rely heavily on some mother-type figure to fix them up, however, they are challenged to become their own sources of nurturance. More than any other sign, the experience they had of their mother in early youth will set them up either for a life of victory or defeat. Cancers develop complexes and they need a particularly strong and astute psychologist to unravel the damage done if they happen to be clams. Cancers are straddling the fence between clannish secrecy on the one side and exploding out into unbridled self-expression on the other.
Some of the most psychologically damaged and greatest artists that have ever existed have been Cancer rising natives, or had the sign of Cancer prominent in their birth charts. Basically, a Cancer must become an artist in some way if they are to psychologically survive in this world. Some people have to be artists. It isn’t a choice. It is so with Cancer. In a romantic temperament, this need reaches its zenith.
You can also err with a Cancer by spoiling the living hell out of them. Yes, they are difficult. You’re fucked if you do and fucked if you don’t. And did I mention that Cancers have some of the biggest potty mouths this side of creation. Picture the proverbial Brooklyn guy saying, “Hey, fuck you buddy” in that mumbly-mouthed and insular way, like they were speaking through cotton gauze. Cancer is the sign of the lower square aspect in astrology, making them particularly susceptible to their id impulses. This means totally irrational and inelegant expressions from the toilet of existence.
Cancers may not know why other people do the things they do but they have the best potential of all twelve signs to understand how they tick and what works or doesn’t work for them. This is more in the sense of action rather than being.
It has to be actionable. That is the key to Cancer’s success. Otherwise, Cancer can get stuck in a neverending morass of neuroses and fears. The personal and the public are inextricably connected for Cancer. Unlike Capricorn, they don’t know how to quash the personal and just put on that public face to meet the faces they have to meet. No, Cancers have to let it all hang out in public. If they are successful in business or enterprise it is usually by including some very personal elements in their offerings. Cancer is so subjective in orientation that it can’t effectively draw the line between what is public and what is private.
Thank god they are the luckiest sign. Cancers can get away with being obscene little buggers. The public instinctively likes them and is particularly tolerant of their personal foibles. Remember when Mel Gibson got in trouble for getting caught saying something about Jews. Remember when Michael Richardson, of Seinfeld fame, got caught on video calling someone in his audience a nigger.
Both Cancer Risings. Both potty mouths. And both will probably be forgiven. And they should. Because Cancers don’t mean anything by it. I mean, Michael Richardson is a Jew and Mel Gibson is a nigger so they can probably just go ahead and cancel each other out.
Hey, I’m using Cancer logic here. This ain’t Gemini I’m talking about. And don’t even bring up those politically correct Aquarians.
Hey, fuck you buddy.